Talk That Transforms with Kim Davis

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  • Healing Beyond the Highlight Reel

    The other day, I found myself in a deep conversation with a few people, reminiscing about our younger years. We laughed about the late nights—clubbing, drinking, smoking, chasing relationships, and stepping into things far earlier than we probably should have. On the surface, it all felt like freedom and fun.

    But then we shared a truth that doesn’t often make it into the stories we tell.

    Behind many of those moments were tears, pain, and experiences that quietly shaped how we see the world today. For some of us, what looked like “fun” was really a way to numb the hurt, to silence the guilt and shame, or to avoid the weight of what we were carrying inside.

    As I reflected, I realized something powerful: I’m grateful I walked through those seasons when I did. Not because of the pain itself, but because it gave me the chance to heal sooner rather than later. It taught me how to grow, how to be honest with myself, and how to become a better, healthier version of who I’m meant to be now.

    I believe the things God allowed me to experience weren’t meant to break me—they were meant to shape me. They gave me a story I can share with others who may feel stuck in their own hurt, unsure if healing is even possible. My life stands as a reminder that there is life after the hardship, after the mistakes, after the seasons that feel heavy and dark.

    So if you’ve been there—if you’re there right now—know this: it’s okay to heal. It’s okay to let go of what no longer serves you. There is a better, stronger, and more peaceful version of you waiting on the other side.

    And you deserve to meet them.

    — Talk That Transforms with Kim Davis 💛

  • Covered by Grace: From Survival to Surrender

    Today, my coworkers and I were talking about our pasts—where we’ve been and how we used to live. I laughed and told them I was wild back then, living any kind of way and having “fun.” Of course, they said I didn’t look like it now.

    But when I look back over my life, I’m overwhelmed with gratitude for the love of God and the grace He’s shown me. He covered me. He kept me. He protected me from so much harm that could have taken my life down a very different path.

    By all accounts, my story wasn’t supposed to look like this. I “should have” been the girl caught up in the streets, locked up, raising children by different fathers, addicted to drugs, not in my right mind—or worse, not here at all.

    Instead, here I am: a woman of God, a wife, a mother of two, a business owner of two businesses, healthy, and in my right mind. That alone is a testimony.

    I survived a violent situation where young men attacked me, cutting my throat, my chest, and my arm. My major artery in my neck was visible. In that moment, I couldn’t even hear—I was just overwhelmed with the realization that God had spared my life. From that day forward, I told myself I would live every single day with purpose and gratitude, because I know without a shadow of a doubt that I’m only still here because of His mercy and His love.

    People sometimes look at my “after” and don’t understand my “before.” But my past reminds me why I move the way I do now. I try to live in the fullness of God because I once gave my life to the world in its fullness.

    This isn’t about being “holy” or wearing the label of being a Christian. It’s about surrender. It’s about giving my life to the One who was able to keep me in a world full of harm when I couldn’t even keep myself.

    — Talk That Transforms with Kim Davis 💛

  • The Power of Transparency and Not Missing Your Blessing

    This week really showed me the power of transparency and how it reminds you that you’re not alone.

    I recently started taking medication for anxiety, and I’m still in the process of finding the right one for my body. As I shared this with a few close friends, I was honestly surprised to find out that every single one of them is also taking something for anxiety. I would have never known.

    At first, I felt ashamed that I even needed medication. I questioned myself and wondered what others would think. But I made a decision: the way I was going to combat that fear was by speaking about it openly. And now? I truly don’t care who knows.

    I’m in a season where I’m choosing healing and wholeness—completely. I want to be the best version of myself, mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. There’s freedom in admitting when you need help, and even more freedom in choosing to get it.

    This same lesson showed up for me in another area of my life this week.

    I had the opportunity to hire a new staff member. I questioned myself because what I saw on the outside didn’t match what I thought the “right” choice should look like. I even had another option. But I could hear the voice of someone who speaks wisdom into my life saying, “Don’t miss your blessing in this season by thinking it has to look a certain way.”

    Ten minutes after the interview, I called and hired them. Today was their first day of training, and it turned out to be one of the easiest training days I’ve had in a long time. I was so grateful I didn’t overlook my blessing simply because it didn’t come packaged the way I expected.

    Have you ever been there?

    This year, don’t miss out. Don’t miss healing because of shame. Don’t miss help because of pride. Don’t miss your blessing because it doesn’t look like what you imagined. Sometimes the very thing we need comes quietly, unexpectedly, and wrapped in a lesson we didn’t know we were ready for—but we are.

    Choose transparency. Choose growth. Choose not to miss what’s meant for you.

    — Talk That Transforms with Kim Davis 💛

  • A Quiet Season of Discernment

    I’ve been attending my church since I was 19 years old. What first drew me in was the passion for Jesus and the heart for serving the community. That foundation has meant so much to me and has played a major role in my spiritual growth over the years.

    As time has passed, I’ve found myself in a season of reflection. Not because anything is wrong, but because seasons change—and sometimes our personal spiritual needs shift as well. I’ve been asking myself deeper questions about growth, connection, and what it looks like to remain fully engaged in my faith walk.

    I truly desire to be helpful and supportive where I am planted, while also recognizing that growth requires openness on all sides. I understand why many people quietly move on when they feel out of alignment, but for me, this has been a space of prayer rather than decision.

    I don’t attend as consistently as I once did, and I’m honest with myself about that. It has less to do with dissatisfaction and more to do with discernment. I want to be present where I can grow, serve, and stay spiritually stirred.

    There is a ministry in Atlanta that deeply inspires me and reignites my passion for the Word. While I’m grateful for how God uses that ministry, I also know I’m called to be connected locally. Watching online services has been a blessing—especially since COVID—but I recognize that virtual connection isn’t a substitute for being in community with the body of Christ.

    I’m praying for clarity and direction. Whether that means renewed engagement where I am, or God leading me to something new locally, I trust Him to order my steps. Even when the process feels uncomfortable or uncertain, I want to remain open and obedient.

    At the heart of it all, my desire is simple: to be where God wants me to be.

    I’ll leave you with a few questions I’ve been reflecting on:
    Do you have a church home?
    Does it feed your soul?
    Do you serve there?
    And how did you know it was where you were meant to be?

    — Talk That Transforms with Kim Davis 💛

  • Learning to Rest and Receive

    This week was hard. I was sick and started a medication that simply didn’t work well with my body. It threw me off physically, mentally, and emotionally. I felt disconnected from myself and out of rhythm, and honestly, it wasn’t an experience I would choose again.

    But in the middle of all of that, something unexpected happened.

    The week forced me to slow down, and in slowing down, I saw something I hadn’t fully acknowledged before—how much I take my husband for granted. He truly showed up for me in ways that made me pause and reflect. Not because I asked or demanded it, but because he wanted to.

    This experience showed me how much I need to lean on him more and allow him to serve me, just as I so naturally serve him. I realized that the days of trying to carry everything by myself are over. And the truth is, it was never that my husband couldn’t help—it was that I wasn’t fully allowing him to.

    As much as I hate that I had to go through what I did this week, I can’t ignore what it revealed. It showed me that I desperately need rest. Not just physical rest, but the kind of rest that comes from letting someone else share the weight. It taught me that allowing my husband to show up for me in the way he desires to isn’t weakness—it’s trust.

    This week reminded me that it’s okay to need help. It’s okay to receive love. And surprisingly enough, I learned something else too—I actually like it.

    — Talk That Transforms with Kim Davis 💛

  • From Wild to Purpose

    I was sitting up thinking about how wild I really was when I was younger. I mean wild in the sense that I was always ready—ready to do just about anything without fear of consequences.

    There were times I was ready to fight. Not because I went looking for trouble, but because someone had messed with me or someone I loved. And honestly, I didn’t care what came after. I was always prepared to respond. My mouth? Even worse. I would say anything. Sometimes it was so bad that, looking back now, I would’ve had to fight myself if someone had said those things to me.

    But now, when I look back, I can clearly see something I didn’t understand then:
    God allowed me to walk through those seasons for a purpose.

    I don’t fully know how He’s going to use it yet, but I know this—it’s going to shake something up for the Kingdom.

    Through all of this, He’s been teaching me self-control, wisdom, and restraint. Things I didn’t have back then, but desperately needed. And what amazes me most is this:
    God is faithful enough to take the very things that once worked against me and use them for my good.

    I can’t wait to see how He turns what once felt bad into something powerful.

    — Talk That Transforms with Kim Davis 💛

  • Grace Before Anger, Restoration After Exposure

    Our sins will eventually cause us to encounter the anger of God.
    But can I tell you something important?

    Before we ever experience His anger, it takes Him a loooooong time to get there—because the Bible tells us He is slow to anger.

    That truth alone speaks volumes about His heart toward us.

    Even in the midst of our wrongdoings, God does not rush to punish. Instead, He lovingly sends people, places, or situations as warning signs—gentle nudges meant to get our attention. These are opportunities for us to pause, reflect, repent, and surrender whatever it is that’s pulling us away from Him.

    But here’s where it gets tricky.

    When we reach the point of exposure—when things come to light or we experience public humiliation—pride often steps in and blinds us. Instead of seeing what God was asking us to release, we focus on saving face, protecting our image, or justifying our actions.

    And yet… here’s the part we often forget:

    GOD STILL RESTORES—EVEN AFTER EXPOSURE. EVEN AFTER HUMILIATION.

    The blood of Jesus redeems us completely. Grace covers us fully.
    But redemption does not erase consequences.

    There are still lessons to be learned. There is still healing to walk through.

    It’s like telling a child over and over, “Don’t touch the stove—it’s hot.”
    But one day, they touch it anyway… and they get burned.

    You can’t magically take away the pain of the burn.
    But you can sit with them.
    You can talk them through it.
    You can reassure them that the pain won’t last forever.

    The consequence is real—but so is the care.

    And that’s how God deals with us.

    He doesn’t abandon us in the aftermath of our choices.
    He stays close.
    He comforts us.
    He heals us.
    And He reminds us that this moment does not define our future.

    Yes, there may be consequences—but there is also restoration.
    Yes, it may hurt for a season—but healing is on the way.
    And yes, God is patient, loving, and faithful to finish what He started in you.

    You will be fine.
    But first… you must walk through it.

    — Talk That Transforms with Kim Davis 💛

  • A New You Begins with Surrender

    As we step into a new year and a new season, I can honestly say this: I don’t know exactly what to expect—and for the first time, I’m okay with that.

    There was a time when I greeted every new year with excitement, armed with long lists of goals, declarations, and resolutions. I knew what I wanted to change. I knew what I hoped for. I believed this would be the year everything shifted. But after many years of making resolutions I didn’t keep, something in me grew tired. Not bitter—just honest. I stopped making New Year’s resolutions because I wasn’t following through, and I didn’t want to keep promising myself things I wasn’t prepared to sustain.

    Instead, I chose a different approach.

    December became my month of release.

    Rather than pressuring myself to become someone new overnight, I began cleaning out the things I no longer wanted to carry—old habits, unhealthy patterns, limiting beliefs, and emotional clutter. I used December as a reset, a sacred pause, a season of preparation. I began intentionally replacing bad habits with healthy ones, and little by little, I could see the change happening—not just outwardly, but within.

    What I’ve learned is this: transformation doesn’t start on January 1st. It starts the moment you decide to let go.

    So now, as I stand at the doorway of a new year, I’m not waiting for fireworks or perfection. I’m waiting for growth. I’m waiting to see the seeds I planted in faith begin to rise—seeds in my businesses, seeds in my marriage, seeds in my family. I’m believing for a healthy marriage, joy-filled moments with my children, and a life that doesn’t just look successful, but feels whole.

    And the truth is, the work didn’t start in December. It started long before. The prayers, the effort, the uncomfortable changes, the choosing discipline over convenience—it’s all been part of the process. December simply sharpened my focus and reminded me that becoming a better version of myself is a daily decision.

    This year, more than anything, I’m open.

    Open for God to have His way in my life.
    Open for growth I didn’t plan.
    Open for blessings I didn’t see coming.
    Open for transformation that goes deeper than goals.

    If you’re entering this new season unsure of what to expect, know this: you don’t need all the answers. Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is show up with faith, obedience, and a willing heart. Let God do the rest.

    Here’s to becoming—not through pressure, but through purpose.
    Here’s to letting go, planting seeds, and trusting the growth.

    — Talk That Transforms with Kim Davis 💛

  • Called to What I Didn’t Want

    The other day, my counselor and I were talking about something that stopped me in my tracks—the very thing I’ve been running from is the very thing God called me to serve.

    People.

    Please pray for me as I even write this, because when I opened my mouth and said out loud why I don’t want the thing He created me for, my body reacted before my mind could catch up. I almost passed out. The thought of it literally took the breath out of me. My breathing changed. My chest tightened. It felt like it was caving in. And all I could say was:

    “I don’t want it.”

    I told her I would rather stay stuck than serve people again—because serving people hurts. The pain you endure while loving, leading, and showing up for others costs something. It costs your heart. Your expectations. Sometimes your peace.

    And the irony?

    I can’t escape it.

    Everything connected to me serves people. My businesses serve people. My ideas serve people. My mind, my voice, my presence—it’s in me. No matter how hard I try to run from it, service keeps finding me.

    So how do you keep showing up for something that fails you, hurts you, and disappoints you over and over again?

    That’s the question I’ve been sitting with.

    I’m giving myself permission to remember—
    when I was the victim and when I was the villain.
    And I’m choosing to be neither.

    Because the truth is… I have been hurt.
    And I have hurt people too.

    Healing, for me, doesn’t look like pretending one isn’t true. It looks like holding both truths and still choosing obedience. Still choosing growth. Still choosing God.

    So I’m going to try to walk this thing out and see what it produces. Not because I’m fearless. Not because I have it all figured out. But because I can’t keep asking why I wasn’t made a goat when deep down I know—

    God created me for greater.

    And maybe the very thing I feared would destroy me
    is the thing He plans to use to grow me.

    — Talk That Transforms with Kim Davis 💛

  • The Power of Wise Counsel: Why We All Need Someone Who Tells Us the Truth

    Having wise counsel is one of the most important parts of growth. I honestly believe everyone in leadership — or anyone who simply wants to grow — needs someone who can speak truth into their life. Whether it’s a counselor, mentor, advisor, or spiritual leader, we all need that one voice that grounds us, checks us, and helps us see beyond our blind spots.

    Today my counselor, who is also my trusted wise counsel, got me together. She confronted something I’ve been avoiding for years. She looked me in my eyes and told me the truth — the truth I didn’t want to hear but desperately needed. It was heavy, almost too heavy to hold, because I’ve been trying so hard to change it on my own. But because it came from her, I received it. I trust her. It costs her nothing but she always gives me something: honesty, clarity, and love.

    Now let me be real… I don’t always receive her words with open arms. Sometimes I push back. Sometimes I get in my feelings. But she keeps telling me the truth anyway — and afterward, I always appreciate her for it. I love her deeply for that.

    Let Me Tell You About My Dear Friend Mr. George

    Mr. George got married, and let’s just say things weren’t going the way he expected. So he started seeking counsel — from family, church members, all kinds of people. And guess what everyone told him? “Leave.”

    When he came to me, I told him, “No. Don’t leave.”
    Why? Because most of the people telling him to walk away were struggling in their own marriages… and still staying. I told him he needed wiser counsel than that.

    But my friend had made up his mind. He was leaving. So I warned him:
    “If you leave and come back later saying you want that woman back… I’m going to laugh. Because I’m telling you right now — don’t leave.”

    Well… a few months after the divorce, reality hit. Mr. George came to me and said, “Kim… I shouldn’t have done that. It wasn’t even that bad.”

    And listen… I laughed. I laughed so hard I cried. Not because of his pain, but because I knew he’d be back saying those exact words. That was our relationship — we laughed through everything: the good, the bad, the happy, and the sad. It was our way of communicating.

    But I told him something important:
    “You might not be able to fix this one, but let it teach you something. Having the wrong counsel can cost you more than you realize. So choose wisely next time.”

    Who Is Your Wise Counsel?

    I want to ask you today:

    • Who is your wise counsel?
    • Who tells you the truth even when you don’t want to hear it?
    • Who sees your blind spots and loves you enough to speak up?

    And if you don’t have someone like that… why not?

    If you want to grow — emotionally, spiritually, professionally, personally — you need wise counsel. Someone who can guide you, challenge you, and help you become better.

    Don’t walk this journey alone. We all need that one voice we can trust.

    — Talk That Transforms with Kim Davis 💛

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