Talk That Transforms with Kim Davis

Choosing the Right Kind of Separation

I recently had the chance to talk things through with a sister I’m really close to. We were having one of those honest, heart-level conversations about everything I’ve been facing—marriage, business, motherhood, and the emotional weight that comes with all of it.

In that conversation, something became clear to me.

I realized I’ve been craving separation in order to become whole.

At first, the separation I desired felt like leaving. Distance. Escape. Walking away because it seems easier—because sometimes it is. When things feel overwhelming, misunderstood, or tense, leaving can feel like relief.

But that isn’t the separation I truly need.

The separation I need is the kind Jesus modeled—the kind He took after speaking to the crowds, after pouring Himself out, or simply when He needed to reconnect. He would step away, not to run, but to be restored. He separated Himself to spend time with the Father.

And that’s what I’m choosing to try.

I’m learning that when I feel misunderstood, angry, emotionally flooded, or overwhelmed by business, kids, or marriage, those feelings aren’t signs that I should flee—they’re indicators. They’re invitations telling me it’s time to pause, to separate, and to go spend intentional time with my Father.

This kind of separation requires something different from me. It means I have to be intentional. I have to make space. Eventually, it will mean building this time into my daily life—not just when things fall apart, but as a way to stay grounded and whole.

I know this will require change. And change requires openness. But I also know I have to start somewhere.

So what better place to start than with time spent with our Father?

I’m excited to see what happens when I choose restoration over escape, connection over avoidance, and separation that heals instead of separation that runs.

This is my starting place

— Talk That Transforms with Kim Davis 💛
Trying to Change in an Environment That Won’t

Trying to change in an environment that already has established patterns and expectations can be incredibly hard—sometimes it feels impossible.

I’m learning this in real time, within my marriage.

What do you do when you decide you don’t want to show up in anger, fear, or anxiety anymore—but the environment around you hasn’t shifted yet and still responds the same?

What do you do when your voice is misunderstood, and your needs are heard as complaining rather than communication?

When your effort and your caring heart quietly become expected instead of appreciated?

I’m not a woman who asks for much. I desire partnership—help with the kids, shared responsibility at home, consistency, follow-through, time together, and love that is expressed through actions.

After years of trying to grow, taking accountability for my part, seeking counseling, and working to heal what I needed to heal, I’ve had to accept an uncomfortable truth:

There are seasons when personal growth requires space—space to hear God clearly and become who He is shaping you to be. Wanting to heal while staying surrounded by what hinders healing makes transformation much harder.

It reminds me of how real change often requires removing what keeps pulling us back. Wanting to heal while staying surrounded by what hinders healing can make transformation much harder.

This season for me is not about giving up or walking away in anger. It’s about courage over comfort. I’m choosing to step back—not toward divorce, but toward healing and clarity.

Marriage is sacred, but it’s also human. And sustaining it requires God. Some seasons stretch us more than others, and this is one of those seasons for me.

I believe God works all things for good. He sees the full picture, even when we don’t. He knows my heart and my husband’s heart.

So I’m choosing separation for a time—so I can allow God to do a deeper work in me. I’m praying that same grace, clarity, and healing covers him as well, because we are both deeply loved by the same Father.

Separation doesn’t mean different homes—it may look like different rooms, boundaries, or rhythms. The form matters less than the intention: creating space for healing.

This walk isn’t easy. And yes, it can carry shame—if we let it. But I’m choosing faith over shame, and trust that wholeness begins when we sit with God.

I’ll be documenting this journey honestly, even without all the answers. Obedience often comes before clarity.

I only know this: I cannot continue another year without becoming whole. And you don’t have to either.

Choosing healing is choosing better—and sometimes that path leads to a stronger individual, and sometimes to a healthier marriage.

It’s your girl Kim,
Talk That Transforms

I share my journey honestly—through healing, growth, faith, and becoming whole—so others know they are not alone. If you’re rebuilding, questioning, or choosing yourself in faith, welcome.

Thank you for being here. 💛
When Professionalism Meets True Colors: A Lesson in Self-Accountability and Release

I had an experience that reminded me of something we don’t talk about enough:
Sometimes the people and organizations who claim to stand for “all people”… don’t act like it when the pressure hits.

For months, I serviced a nonprofit with excellence. I showed up, went above and beyond, and fulfilled every task with integrity. Everything flowed smoothly—until suddenly, my email was hacked. A hacker sent fraudulent payment instructions to several of my clients. Thankfully, one of them alerted me in time, and I immediately notified everyone and changed my account information.

But there was one client who didn’t forward my updated email to the person responsible for paying their invoice… and they sent the money straight to the hacker.

That alone was stressful enough. But what happened after?
That’s where the lesson came in.

Instead of taking accountability for their part, I was questioned—hard.
They wanted timestamps, email logs, explanations, proof of when and who I notified.
And then… they told me I would need to “take the loss.”
Over $1,000.

I went to the bank, tried everything I could to resolve it, only to be dismissed because they “donate to the organization.” Even though I’m a member too, it suddenly felt like none of that mattered.

Then came the most shocking moment.

Their CPA called me and accused me of working with the hackers.
Accused me—after all the work and integrity I had shown.

And then he said the words that revealed everything:

“I don’t know why they work with you people.”
“We’re a multimillion-dollar organization. Why would we hire a small company like yours?”

That was the moment I realized the slogan on the wall does not always match the spirit in the building.

Under pressure, people reveal what they really think.
Big organizations sometimes think they’re too big to honor small businesses.
And sometimes “for the people” doesn’t actually include all people.

After accusing me, they paused my services “until they figured things out”… which really meant letting me go. And to make it worse? They never even signed the contract. They kept passing it around, and I—trying to help them before their grand opening—continued to work without the signature.

I learned a lot.

Not every member of an organization lives up to the mission on the website.
Not every leader understands professionalism or humility.
And not every client deserves the excellence you bring.

For a while, the situation hurt.
It was a good contract, and I know I delivered.
Sometimes I still drive by the building and wonder if they ever found “better.”

And honestly?
I’ve wondered more than once if they ever reaped what they did to me.
But knowing my heart, if they did, I’d probably feel bad for them.
It’s funny how we want people to feel what they put us through…
but at the same time, we really don’t want that for them either.
That conflict is human. That tension is real

But then I remind myself:

Once you’ve worked with my company, you will always remember the difference—even if you never admit it.

And that realization helped me do something important:

I apologized to myself.

I apologized for the way I was treated.
I apologized for the unnecessary stress.
I apologized for blaming myself when I did nothing wrong.

Some of us need to learn this:
You can apologize to yourself for what others didn’t have the maturity, character, or courage to acknowledge.

And the beautiful thing?
Once you apologize to yourself, the pain loses its sting.
The random thoughts pop up less and less.
Forgiveness becomes release.
And release becomes peace.

It wasn’t a loss for me.
It was a loss for them.

Because integrity can’t be hacked.
And excellence can’t be replaced. 💛
Embracing the Healing Journey

My healing journey began in 2022, and now, here we are in 2025—and I still have a long way to go. But I am so grateful that I started. Life kept happening, challenges kept coming, and I can’t imagine where I’d be if I hadn’t made the decision to begin my healing process back then.

The Power of Awareness

No matter where you are on your journey, take a moment to be grateful that you’ve reached a place where you can recognize the areas in your life that need healing. That awareness alone is powerful—and it’s okay to feel that it’s a big deal.

Healing begins when we acknowledge the things that have hurt us, shaped us, or left scars. And it’s not always easy to face them head-on.

Facing the Broken Places

For me, becoming the woman God created me to be required honestly facing the things that broke me—the experiences, the mistakes, and the wounds that cut deep into my soul.

I realized that if I kept moving through life broken on the inside, that pain would eventually pour out onto the people, places, and situations around me—often in ways I regretted. Healing isn’t just for you; it’s for everyone your life touches.

Why Healing Matters

So today, I encourage you: face the things that broke you. Look at them, process them, and allow God to begin restoring the pieces of your heart.

Why? Because someone out there is waiting for the healed version of you. Someone needs your wisdom, your strength, your light—and that person can’t fully receive it until you do the work of healing.

It’s your girl Kim,
Talk That Transforms

Where are you in your healing journey today? What’s one step you can take right now to face what’s been holding you back? Share your thoughts—I’d love to hear your story. 💛